LIFE

What is life? Why we are living this life? What is the purpose of life? Why often people are not able to manage their life? Many questions arise in your mind when we hear this word. Life is a beautiful gift of god. We should thank to god that he has given us every single day to live on this planet.


Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life to look perfect and make money and be popular and well respected and admired.


Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.



If i ask you "What do you want out of life"? and you say something like "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like", it is so universal that it doesn't even mean anything.



A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you have never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.



Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence but not everyone wants to suffer through 60 hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate corporate industries. People want to be rich without risk, without sacrifice, without delayed satisfaction necessary to accumulate wealth.



Happiness requires struggle and for this you need to adopt positivity. For living better life you need to be optimist. At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more less or similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It's the negative experience that we struggle with. Therefore what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire, but by what bad feelings we are willing and able to sustain to get us those good feelings.

People want an amazing physique. But you don't end up with one unless you do not end up appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny-sized portion.

People want to start their business or become physically financial independent. But you don't end up a successful entrepreneur, unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures and working insane hours or something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

What determines your success isn't "What do you want to enjoy?" The question is "What pain do you want to sustain?" The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren't aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want "enough".

If you find yourself wanting or something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come closer to it, then may be what you actually want is an idealization, an image and a false promise. May be what you want isn't what you want, may be you just enjoy wanting. May be you don't actually want it at all.

Sometimes i ask people, "How do you choose to suffer?" These people tilt their heads as if i have asked something weird. But i ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires. Because you have to choose something. You can't have a pain-free life. It can't all be roses and unicorns.The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain you want to sustain?

The answer will actually get you somewhere. It's the question that can change your life. It's what makes you you and me me. It's what define us and separate us and ultimately bring us together.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of gym are the one who get in shape. People who enjoy long work weeks and the politics of the corporate are the ones who move up. People who enjoy the stress and uncertainty of lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our success. So choose your struggle wisely.