LOVE

What is love? Love is a beautiful feeling. Love is, connection between individuals. It could be motherly love, family love, friends love etc. Love is something which cannot be expressed. If i say for me what love is? then it is my mother. Different people feel different connections with different people.Out of this, one of the most discussed topic is Teenage love.


The kind of love which is developed in romantic relationships between two individuals. Teenage love is basically just an attraction. We see someone and we develop feelings. Till (13-22 age) we go through many changes physically, mentally and psychologically. In this age, they get attracted easily for anything. They want to try new things. By coming and with trying of new things they actually get self aware.


As we know that in this age, they keep on learning new things. This kind of age is most difficult for parents because they have to handle them very carefully. We know that kids of this age are very stubborn. By scolding them, slapping them, interrupting for everything, this is not a right solution. Parents need to handle them with care. The first and foremost thing for a parent is that at this age, parents should become there best friends. They should keep track on them but in smart manner. They should talk to them, explain the good and bad consequences.


Love now a days is just a lust bean. Even if we talk about teenage love or adult love, Love has just become a show off. And in between this, the most common evil is now a days: social networking sites and smartphones. Everything has its good or bad sides. We know that how we have become slaves of this new technology. It is not only affecting adults but majorly it is affecting the kids of today's world. 



A study was conducted that nearly 70% of teenage kids use social networking sites everyday. Some of the kids make there ID's by hiding from there parents. Due to this crime rate is increasing day by day. They are always curious to try new things and sometimes this curiosity becomes evil for them. Kids of these days are smart enough but still they get trapped into major problems which result in stress, depression in early ages.

Love at early ages is not sensible according to me. They are not much responsible to handle the consequences and the most important thing is that they are not aware of judging what is good or bad for them.



I will discuss some major teenage love problems:



IMMATURITY
Teenagers are young and inexperienced, while they think they know what's the best, a parent can see emotional destruction long before the teen feels it. This immaturity both of experience and emotion can cause teens to think they are in love when they are in fact obsessed. This obsession can cause teens to experience low self-esteem, devastation and depression when the relationship ends.


PRESSURE

A teen may feel pressure to do things that she doesn't want to do while in a relationship. A boyfriend may ask her to go places or do things to prove that she "loves" him, or she may do things because it seems as if the rest of her friends are participating. Talking to your teenager about how to say no and when to leave a situation can help her understand when she is being pressured. The Guttmacher Institute notes that nearly half of American teens are sexually active, and too often this is the result of pressure.

EDUCATION

A teen relationship, even a casual one, can wreak havoc on your teen's grades. Spending time with his girlfriend and neglecting homework, or even skipping school together, can take his focus off the important things and cause his grades to slip. Your teen should understand that relationships are a privilege, and that his education comes first.

DEPENDENCY AND SELF-WORTH

Too often teens enter into a relationship before they love even themselves, which turns into dependency. Kimiberly Kirberger, author of "Teen Love: On Relationships, A Book for Teenagers," urges teens to learn more about themselves, cultivate their personalities and find their self-esteem before attempting a relationship. The first love is with the person that your teen sees in the mirror. If she enters a relationship without that confidence, it won't be long before she begins to believe that her worth is only as half of a teen couple.

SOCIAL STATUS

Being part of a couple can alter your teen's social status at school. He might feel like he's not popular unless he's with his girlfriend, or a girl could be given an "easy" label because she dates a lot. Unfortunately, social status means almost everything to a teenager, so when his social status is raised or lowered because of his relationship, he'll experience an artificial boost in self-confidence, or feel badly about himself because of his status.



Last but not the least choose your love wisely at the right age, right time because your happiness is the most important thing.

LIFE

What is life? Why we are living this life? What is the purpose of life? Why often people are not able to manage their life? Many questions arise in your mind when we hear this word. Life is a beautiful gift of god. We should thank to god that he has given us every single day to live on this planet.


Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life to look perfect and make money and be popular and well respected and admired.


Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.



If i ask you "What do you want out of life"? and you say something like "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like", it is so universal that it doesn't even mean anything.



A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you have never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.



Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence but not everyone wants to suffer through 60 hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate corporate industries. People want to be rich without risk, without sacrifice, without delayed satisfaction necessary to accumulate wealth.



Happiness requires struggle and for this you need to adopt positivity. For living better life you need to be optimist. At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more less or similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It's the negative experience that we struggle with. Therefore what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire, but by what bad feelings we are willing and able to sustain to get us those good feelings.

People want an amazing physique. But you don't end up with one unless you do not end up appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny-sized portion.

People want to start their business or become physically financial independent. But you don't end up a successful entrepreneur, unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures and working insane hours or something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

What determines your success isn't "What do you want to enjoy?" The question is "What pain do you want to sustain?" The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren't aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want "enough".

If you find yourself wanting or something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come closer to it, then may be what you actually want is an idealization, an image and a false promise. May be what you want isn't what you want, may be you just enjoy wanting. May be you don't actually want it at all.

Sometimes i ask people, "How do you choose to suffer?" These people tilt their heads as if i have asked something weird. But i ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires. Because you have to choose something. You can't have a pain-free life. It can't all be roses and unicorns.The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain you want to sustain?

The answer will actually get you somewhere. It's the question that can change your life. It's what makes you you and me me. It's what define us and separate us and ultimately bring us together.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of gym are the one who get in shape. People who enjoy long work weeks and the politics of the corporate are the ones who move up. People who enjoy the stress and uncertainty of lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our success. So choose your struggle wisely.